Category Archives: Work

Distraction is the way we avoid our inner Pain

“As is the case with all human behaviour, distraction is just another way our brains attempt to deal with pain. If we accept this fact, it makes sense that the only way to handle distraction is by learning to handle discomfort.”

Nir Eyal, indistractable, (2019)

Stopping, closing your eyes and meditating on your inner world isn’t always comfortable if you are doing it for self healing. There will be times when uncomfortable feelings and sensations arise. And these will arise when you are disciplined enough to stay with your practice long enough, that you go deeper.

Going deeper isn’t always comfortable. When you have the first sign of an uncomfortable feeling you can tend to 1/ Distract yourself from feeling the pain. 2/ Stop sooner and open your eyes, 3/ Switch to focusing on the thoughts in your head rather than your body or 4/ Leave your body entirely and float off.

All of these are escapes from feeling what’s actually going on in the present moment in your body now. You cannot heal further if you don’t accept and allow the deeper pain to release.

Feeling the difficult feelings is the key. Making it okay to feel what is there in manageable doses. Accepting that they are normal. Staying with the body part and sensation helps to keep you out of your head. Adding a story about the painful feeling doesn’t help. Feeling it directly in your body is what helps it move and release the most.

It is okay to feel difficult and painful feelings. They are part of the human condition. Ignoring them will likely just create more problems later that you don’t need. So allowing pain, fear and anger to arise without judgment, in manageable doses, can go a long way to releasing painful feelings easily.

As you accept and release the discomfort, you will need to distract yourself less. So it becomes easier to stay on task and follow through on commitments.

Mastering Stillness and Speed

“Stillness is what aims the archer’s arrow. It inspires new ideas. It sharpens perspective and illuminates connections. It slows the ball down so that we might hit it. It generates a vision, helps us resist the passions of the mob, make space for gratitude and wonder. Stillness allows us to persevere. To succeed.” Ryan Holiday,Continue Reading

Persistence always beats Talent

“As any coach or athlete will tell you, consistency of effort over the long run is everything.”Angela Duckworth, Grit – The Power of Passion and Perseverance, (2016) This is a great book, a massive best seller a few years ago (it remained on the New York Times best sellers list for 20 weeks. She alsoContinue Reading

The balance your body needs in a revved up world

“in 1990, 49 per cent of Europeans felt their work schedule was too strenuous. By 2000, that had increased to 60 per cent – and those who felt themselves to be rushed were almost twice as likely to complain of classic stress disorders, such as back pain, or tight shoulders and necks.” Robert Colvile, TheContinue Reading

The Stress and Trauma of Modern Times

“Mindfulness involves paying attention to something, in a particular way, on purpose, in the present moment, non-judgementally….You actually have to tell your brain that is your intention. It won’t know what you’re doing, and it will priorities its activities based on your emotions or your mental energy or your physical needs.” Stan Rodski, The NeuroscienceContinue Reading

The Effort Required to Produce Quality Results

“..how total are you in what you do? Is your doing surrendered or non-surrendered? This is what determines your success in life, not how much effort you make.” (Eckhart Tolle, Stillness Speaks, 2003) Another timeless classic from Eckhart. This book came out a year before the world wide best seller, The Power of Now. ThisContinue Reading

Healthy Work – Finding your Sustainable Level

“According to the World Health Organization, stress is considered a worldwide health epidemic. The American Institute of Stress links stress to the six leading causes of death (heart disease, accidents, cancer, liver disease, lung ailments, and suicide).” (Joe Burton, Creating Mindful Leaders, 2018) Working in a high performance, high stress major company, the stress willContinue Reading

When do you ‘hang in there’ and when do you quit?

“We fail when we get distracted by tasks we don’t have the guts to quit.” (Seth Godin, The Dip, 2011) One of the problems with the intellect is that it is very good at giving you reasons to do a lot of things. You can make a case for doing many things and making themContinue Reading

Lost Connections leads to Depression

The last class for 2018 is running tomorrow night. The Mindfulness classes will resume again on Tuesday Jan 15th 2019. So a shorter break than other years. 2019 will make it 9 consecutive years running of this class and as is tradition, the first class will be free for whoever books in until full. I’mContinue Reading

As a child, what did you sacrifice within you, to keep the peace?

A question I’d like to ask you… Q. What tension did you bottle up as a child? As a child living in the environment of your parents and siblings, what did you sacrifice within you, to keep the peace? Whatever that is, if you haven’t done the inner work to clear it, chances are itContinue Reading