Category Archives: Therapeutic Process

Having the Courage to face your Demons

“Manning up in the past was to suffer in silence, manning up now is to put your hand up.”

(Danny Frawley, AFL Football Great/Coach, 2019)

Danny Frawley died in a car crash hitting a tree last Monday afternoon. He was only 56. The whole Australian AFL football world was in shock that this great man had died.

He was the second longest serving captain ever of the St.Kilda football club – the club that I follow – so I remember his playing days well. He also did some good things in his coaching days and then was a great host and commentator in the media, radio and TV. He was a great leader and inspired many. He was much loved by all.

Danny had major depression issues over the last ten years. He was one of the first men in football to go public with his mental health issues. Having them splashed across the newspapers would not have been easy. This was such a brave thing to do for a celebrity and for a man so much in the public eye of the australian football world.

I am hoping his legacy will have a wide reaching effect on all men, to stop playing tough and pretending ‘she’ll be right mate’ and be brave and courageous enough to speak up and ask for help without feeling it is a sign of weakness. In fact it is a sign of great courage.

It takes great courage to face your demons. It takes men even greater courage to do that, because of cultural conditioning growing up. I believe it is the beginning of a death sentence when a man decided to completely suppress his real feelings in order to be or look strong. This is just not healthy whatsoever. Blocking off feelings reduces your life span.

It takes great courage to face what you have going on within you. I see this regularly with new clients, coming in shaking and scared at what will be revealed. I was the same. Having been through it myself, most are able to calm down fairly quickly and begin the deep inner process.

Looking back at all the sessions I had over the years, I would often be sitting in the waiting area terrified at what I was likely to show to the therapist which had never been safe to show ever before in my life, even to myself. This type of courage leads to freedom and greater health in your life. It’s not easy, but it is worth it.

Doing a regular Body Mindfulness meditation practice means you will have to go within and eventually face some of your old traumas and demons that you could not face in the past. Don’t give up when uncomfortable feelings arise. Just take a smaller piece, whatever is manageable and face that. Do that regularly and you will progress further than ever before. You will thrive.

Lost Connections leads to Depression

The last class for 2018 is running tomorrow night. The Mindfulness classes will resume again on Tuesday Jan 15th 2019. So a shorter break than other years. 2019 will make it 9 consecutive years running of this class and as is tradition, the first class will be free for whoever books in until full. I’mContinue Reading

Learning to Let Things Happen

Learning to let go the over-use of the intellect isn’t easy in this day and age. But it is a must if you want life to flow more effortlessly and to be able to make better decisions in all areas of your life. Changing on the inside also doesn’t have to be a big effortContinue Reading

The Bizarre Twitches and Jerks

“What are these twitches and jerks George! They are bizarre!” Such were the comments of a client recently after their session. Welcome to my world! Where every little subtle sensation and feeling is┬átreated as much more important than the thoughts in your head. To the average person, when they do this work, (getting into theContinue Reading

You do not need Thoughts to Think, you need Silence

“Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles & the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving until the right action arises by itself?” Lao Tzu This is a great quote for describing aspects of Mindfulness Meditation – especially for self healing. The inner you (subconscious) needs time, space and usually aContinue Reading

Consolidation Meditations

In this post I’d like to focus a little on Consolidation Meditations. What is that? Once you learn to release within you, it can get addictive to keep releasing continually. Doing this to much can fragment or destabalise you. So it is good to stop occasionally and do a few meditations for consolidation. That is,Continue Reading

Facing Resistance

My classes, workshops, courses and individual sessions that people attend, aim to create a safe place where a person can spend some quality time contacting what’s ticking away inside them subconsciously which affects their daily life, behaviours and health in very big ways. I recently read a book recommended by a colleague, titled ‘Turning Pro’.Continue Reading

Dependancy

I shouldn’t have to be writing about this topic this day and age but sadly I still need to bring some attention to it. I heard again from another client recently how other therapists that she had been to in the past, she felt had tried to ‘milk her’ of her money by making herContinue Reading

A little about ‘Acceptance’

I’d like to say a little about ACCEPTANCE that can be very beneficial to remember. In the mindfulness classes (as well as the private therapy sessions) I often talk about acceptance. Sometimes people think that by accepting their problem, that it means that they will be stuck with the problem forever. That’s how it feelsContinue Reading

Stillness

Who we are I believe, correlates more with the state of stillness than it does with our intellectual thinking. Your ability to feel stillness, to just be with yourself, the world, nature, or with others, is a greater indication of your maturity and level of humanity. Stillness is not reading a book while lying onContinue Reading