Category Archives: Mindfulness Meditation

Having the Courage to face your Demons

“Manning up in the past was to suffer in silence, manning up now is to put your hand up.”

(Danny Frawley, AFL Football Great/Coach, 2019)

Danny Frawley died in a car crash hitting a tree last Monday afternoon. He was only 56. The whole Australian AFL football world was in shock that this great man had died.

He was the second longest serving captain ever of the St.Kilda football club – the club that I follow – so I remember his playing days well. He also did some good things in his coaching days and then was a great host and commentator in the media, radio and TV. He was a great leader and inspired many. He was much loved by all.

Danny had major depression issues over the last ten years. He was one of the first men in football to go public with his mental health issues. Having them splashed across the newspapers would not have been easy. This was such a brave thing to do for a celebrity and for a man so much in the public eye of the australian football world.

I am hoping his legacy will have a wide reaching effect on all men, to stop playing tough and pretending ‘she’ll be right mate’ and be brave and courageous enough to speak up and ask for help without feeling it is a sign of weakness. In fact it is a sign of great courage.

It takes great courage to face your demons. It takes men even greater courage to do that, because of cultural conditioning growing up. I believe it is the beginning of a death sentence when a man decided to completely suppress his real feelings in order to be or look strong. This is just not healthy whatsoever. Blocking off feelings reduces your life span.

It takes great courage to face what you have going on within you. I see this regularly with new clients, coming in shaking and scared at what will be revealed. I was the same. Having been through it myself, most are able to calm down fairly quickly and begin the deep inner process.

Looking back at all the sessions I had over the years, I would often be sitting in the waiting area terrified at what I was likely to show to the therapist which had never been safe to show ever before in my life, even to myself. This type of courage leads to freedom and greater health in your life. It’s not easy, but it is worth it.

Doing a regular Body Mindfulness meditation practice means you will have to go within and eventually face some of your old traumas and demons that you could not face in the past. Don’t give up when uncomfortable feelings arise. Just take a smaller piece, whatever is manageable and face that. Do that regularly and you will progress further than ever before. You will thrive.

The Effort Required to Produce Quality Results

“..how total are you in what you do? Is your doing surrendered or non-surrendered? This is what determines your success in life, not how much effort you make.” (Eckhart Tolle, Stillness Speaks, 2003) Another timeless classic from Eckhart. This book came out a year before the world wide best seller, The Power of Now. ThisContinue Reading

Learn to say NO to a lot of things

“…focusing on everything means focusing on nothing. It’s almost impossible to accomplish anything significant when you’re racing through an endless litany of tasks and emergencies. And yet this is how many of us spend our days, weeks, months, years – sometimes, our entire lives.” (Michael Hyatt, Free to Focus, 2019) I’ve talked about this informationContinue Reading

The importance of Space and Stillness each Day

“When you are full of problems, there is no room for anything new to enter, no room for a solution. So whenever you can, make some room, create some space, so that you find the life underneath your life situation.” (Eckhart Tolle, The Power Of Now, 2004) Fifteen years on and this book is stillContinue Reading

Releasing the Past, by Coming into the Present

“If we know how to touch the present deeply, we can touch the past, and even transform it.” (Thich Nhat Hanh, How To Fight, 2017) The present moment is all that is ever real. What you are reading now is all that is real in this moment. What just happened or is about to happenContinue Reading

Expanding your Brain in Real-Time

“The concept that mind creates matter is not a metaphysical proposition. It’s a biological one….your brain creates matter in the form of neurons and synapses in response to your consciousness.” (Dawson Church, Mind to Matter, 2018) Lots of research is coming out now (thanks to imaging machines and brain electromagnetic field readers) that the pathwaysContinue Reading

Your Body, Trauma and Confidence

“Research is also now starting to make clear the long term impact of early childhood trauma on people’s relationship to their own bodies (Price, 2007; Van der Kolk, 2014). Body awareness, body attitude and body satisfaction may all be negatively affected.” (Benjamin R, Haliburn J, King S, (Ed), Humanising Mental Health Care in Australia, 2019,Continue Reading

Your Second Brain

“Your gut has capabilities that surpass all your other organs and even rival your brain. It has its own nervous system, known in scientific literature as the enteric nervous system, or ENS, and often referred to in the media as the ‘second brain’. This second brain is made up of 50-100 million nerve cells, asContinue Reading

Healthy Work – Finding your Sustainable Level

“According to the World Health Organization, stress is considered a worldwide health epidemic. The American Institute of Stress links stress to the six leading causes of death (heart disease, accidents, cancer, liver disease, lung ailments, and suicide).” (Joe Burton, Creating Mindful Leaders, 2018) Working in a high performance, high stress major company, the stress willContinue Reading

When do you ‘hang in there’ and when do you quit?

“We fail when we get distracted by tasks we don’t have the guts to quit.” (Seth Godin, The Dip, 2011) One of the problems with the intellect is that it is very good at giving you reasons to do a lot of things. You can make a case for doing many things and making themContinue Reading